When a girl says she is being smitten with you, she likes you.
That is obvious or it should be obvious.
When you tell her that you don't want her, of course she is going to be a little hurt and maybe a bit angry if you have lead her to believe that you did want her.
Why flirt if there is no attraction?
Why flirt if she doesn't have a chance?
Why make her believe that you like her for who she is
and then tell her you don't want to be with her
because of the things she doesn't have
or for the things she cannot do?
Why tell her you want to sleep with her if you don't want a relationship with her?
That is obvious or it should be obvious.
When you tell her that you don't want her, of course she is going to be a little hurt and maybe a bit angry if you have lead her to believe that you did want her.
Why flirt if there is no attraction?
Why flirt if she doesn't have a chance?
Why make her believe that you like her for who she is
and then tell her you don't want to be with her
because of the things she doesn't have
or for the things she cannot do?
Why tell her you want to sleep with her if you don't want a relationship with her?
Why is it that some guys are totally blind and can't see that a girl is throwing themselves at them? Why do girls have to be so desperate and stupid as to throw themselves at a guy?
I'm tired of trying to get a damn date.
I am single and maybe I should just be thankful that I am single instead of being with a guy who doesn't want me or treat a girl like a guy should, especially if they are supposed to have been in 'love' for 5 years.
Maybe they should have taken the hints... There are so many clues that just give it away. It was right in front of them and they don't see it.
They say: "I don't want to hurt anyone". Stop telling lies, stop playing games. I want something real. I never even get a chance.
It will happen one day. My friends keep telling me that it will happen. I like to think I'm a good person and that I deserve something good. I have tried really hard. It just hurts sometimes to be alone. The day it happens is going to be the day my life will change. Not the day that I will be happy, because that will come way before someone falls in love with me.
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I for one am a guy...and I NEVER get the hints...I suppose that makes me stupid, in this particular case. Sometimes guys don't see this stuff. At least guys like me.
I am sorry for generalizing. I was trying to be specific about a guy I liked who doesn't want to date me because I don't have a car.
I just wanted to point out that people should just say how they feel right off the bat so there is no confusion about who likes who, who wants what, and so on and so forth.
Girls tend to hint because they don't really know what the guy wants. If the guys would just be honest and straight forward, it would make it easier for the girls to be honest and straight forward as well.
Many people, both guys and girls should figure out what they really want and just tell each other so there is no guessing and second guessing. I didn't mean to single the guys out, just in the case of dating... It gets frustrating for me.
If it makes you feel any better, I don't have a car...or a licence! And I'm 29...really kinda pathetic...but funny too.
As for the generalisation...no wories...happens to me all the time.
As for dating...It is hard not to take rejection personally, but I've learned over the years that dating is only as bad as you make it. So try to enjoy it, rather than keep your hopes too high. It worked for me...sometimes...
It does make me feel a lil bit better. Well dating is something that might get better if I don't worry so much about it. I think that some things will work out in their own time. I may as well just let nature do it's own thing.
I used to be like you...looking at your blog. I used to think like that. It seems very familiar to me.
Then I stopped CARING so much. And by that, I don't mean caring about people (I still do that alot!), but caring about the stigmas, morals and goals that are expected of young people (ex: marriage, girlfriends).
Once I stopped caring so much, things made more sense. I gained more confidence. I was less worried about failing. I felt like a new person.
I'm telling you this as reassurance that there is light at the end of the tunnel. You'll succeed at this when you stop caring about being successful at it.
So go out. Date alot. Have lots of boyfriends and savour all that life has to offer with them. Then that "one" will come by and you'll be very surprised!
And date the "jerks"...I call that "character building"! LOL.
LOL! Nobody wants to date jerks. I know that builds character because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, but nobody wants to put themselves through those emotional tailspins. Yes, I know I have many areas to work on. I have a lists of areas I must work on. In fact, I should post it to remind myself of these goals. Maybe when others know what I must do, they can help me. There is never anything wrong with asking for help because in helping others, we are truly helping ourselves.
Only YOU can help you!
That is true in some instances, but there is no shame in asking others for help and support. It's not like asking for a hand-out, it is more like asking for a hand up.
Well said!
Thank you, Jamie :D
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