Being Wise

It's frustrating with certain people. 
THEY SEEM TO LIKE TO TRY TO PUSH BOUNDARIES.
Concerning what I will and won't tolerate. 

THEY WANT ME TO TOLERATE THINGS
THAT THEY ENJOY, BUT I DON'T.

And when it comes to me NOT LIKING IT, 
AND SAYING I DON'T LIKE IT, 

AND WANT IT TO STOP, 
THEY GET MAD.

AT ME FOR WANTING THE BS TO JUST FKN STOP.

After I told someone I didn't want him to touch my ears anymore, 
and telling him to leave my ears ALONE, 

HE SAID, "I CAN LEAVE ALL OF YOU ALONE ;) "

SO I SAID, "IF THAT'S WHAT YOU WANT AFTER TELLING YOU
I DON'T LIKE IT AND TO STOP IT."

HE SAID THAT FOR A DIFFERENT RESPONSE
TO HIM VIOLATING MY FKN BOUNDARIES. 

HE WANTED ME TO BACKTRACK
AND LET HIM KEEP DOING IT. 

I DOUBLED DOWN AND HE DIDN'T RESPOND.

THEN..... ON SUNDAY:
"DIDN'T THINK OF ANYTHING TO DO?"

LIKE I WAS EXPECTED TO MAKE PLANS WITH HIM.
HE DIDN'T MAKE ANY WITH ME.

WE DIDN'T HAVE ANY PLANS.

HE HADN'T SPOKEN TO ME ALL WEEK, EITHER!
HOW WAS I TO KNOW HE EXPECTED TO SEE ME ON THE WEEKEND?

YOU CAN'T JUST EXPECT TO SEE SOMEONE
YOU DIDN'T MAKE PLANS WITH!

JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT THEM
TO BE AVAILABLE!

HE GOT BORED, BY HIMSELF, 
AND TURNED IT ON ME.

I DON'T LIKE THAT SH*T!

IF HE WANTED TO DO SOMETHING, 
HE COULD HAVE SAID THAT AND MADE PLANS WITH ME. 

INSTEAD OF ACTING LIKE THAT!

ESPECIALLY AFTER HE ACTED LIKE THAT
AFTER I TOLD HIM TO LEAVE MY EARS ALONE!

I'M NOT HIS FKN GIRLFRIEND!
SO WHY TF DOES HE THINK THAT'S OKAY?
JUST BECAUSE I TOLERATED IT TOO MANY TIMES?

I TOLD HIM I'D BEEN TOLERATING IT, 
BUT I DON'T WANT TO TOLERATE IT ANYMORE. 

AND TO JUST LEAVE THEM ALONE. 

IF I were a male, HE'D LEAVE MY EARS ALONE. 
THERE ARE CERTAIN PEOPLE
HE ALREADY KNOWS THAT HE WOULD NOT GET AWAY WITH
DOING IT TO.
AND WOULDN'T DO IT TO THEM!

HE DID IT TO ME TO SEE IF HE COULD GET AWAY WITH IT.
AND I TOLERATED IT BECAUSE I DIDN'T KNOW HOW HE WOULD REACT
IF I CONFRONTED HIM ABOUT IT.

CHICKS SHOULD NOT HAVE TO BE CONCERNED
ABOUT A DUDE'S REACTION
TO BEING TOLD TO STOP DOING SOMETHING.
OR BEING TOLD NOT TO DO IT AT ALL. 

AND THEY SHOULD NOT BE DOING SOMETHING
TO TEST WHETHER THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH DOING IT. 

PEOPLE WHO ARE SAFE TO BE AROUND, DON'T DO THAT, 
DON'T REACT LIKE THAT, AND DON'T TREAT ME LIKE THAT. 
WOULD NEVER DO SOMETHING THAT MADE ME FEEL LIKE THAT. 

And then to EXPECT me to find something to do for us
WHEN HE MADE NO PLANS WITH ME.
DIDN'T EVEN SAY SORRY FOR FKN DOING THAT TO ME.
OR REACTING LIKE THAT WHEN I TOLD HIM TO STOP....

AFTER HE SAID: "DIDN'T THINK OF ANYTHING TO DO"
I SAID "I'M BUSY THIS WEEKEND, MAYBE NEXT WEEKEND..."
HE TRIED TO PUT HIMSELF IN MY AREA TO TRY TO COAX ME OUT
TO HANG OUT WITH HIM....
TO SEE ME EVEN AFTER I TOLD HIM I WAS ALREADY BUSY. 

THEN HE WANTED TO KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING!

"WHAT ARE YOU DOING? OUT OF CURIOSITY."

TOLD HIM I'M WORKING ON A PROJECT.
HE GUESSED WHICH ONE, but it wasn't that one. 
I TOLD HIM IT WASN'T THAT ONE, BUT WOULDN'T ELABORATE.
HE JUST GAVE ME A THUMBS UP.

I DON'T OWE ANY EXPLANATIONS OR DETAILS. 
"I'M BUSY RIGHT NOW." IS ALL I NEEDED TO SAY.

HE COULD HAVE ACCEPTED THAT.

HE'S NOT MY BOYFRIEND, I DON'T OWE HIM
EVERY DETAIL OF MY LIFE. 

HE'S ACTING LIKE THIS, AND WE'RE NOT TOGETHER FFS.
IF WE WERE TOGETHER IT WOULD LIKELY BE EVEN WORSE.
I WOULD NOT BE HAPPY. 

HARD TO IMAGINE WHY I'D RATHER BE ALONE THESE DAYS?

BEING TREATED LIKE THIS? FK THAT SH*T.

BUT AFTER TELLING HIM THAT IF HE WANTED TO MAKE PLANS
FOR NEXT WEEKEND, WE COULD, BUT...

WE DIDN'T HAVE ANY FOR THIS WEEKEND. 
SO EXPECTING TO HAVE SOME WITHOUT MAKING ANY...
IS ASSUMPTIVE SH*T. 

I DON'T LIKE PEOPLE ASSUMING ANYTHING ABOUT ME. 
LIKE ASSUMING IT IS OKAY TO JUST TOUCH ME
BECAUSE THEY FEEL LIKE IT.

IF YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ME
THAT MEANS I AM OFF LIMITS. 
IT MEANS YOU HAVE LESS THAN ZERO RIGHT TO TOUCH ME.
EVEN MY EARS.

IF I CONSENT, OKAY.
BUT TOLERATING SOMETHING
BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR FKN REACTION WILL BE
WHEN I TELL YOU TO FKN STOP...

IS NOT CONSENT.

HE'S TRIED TO KISS ME, 
HE TRIED TO TOUCH MY BOOBS FFS.

AFTER I TOLD HIM THAT I WAS ONLY WILLING TO HANG OUT
IF HE WAS OKAY WITH HANGING OUT AS FRIENDS ONLY!!!!!!!!!

HE SAID HE WAS OKAY WITH THAT!

THE FIRST TIME HE MET ME, 
I DRESSED LIKE A DUDE AND I USUALLY DO.
HE NOTICED.

"NEXT TIME, DRESS MORE FEMININE.
YOU LOOK LIKE A DUDE/ROOFER."

HE WANTED ME TO DRESS MORE THE WAY A CHICK DOES
BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT HE LIKES.
I'M NOT DRESSING TO TURN ANYONE ON. 
FK THAT.

IF YOU DRESS LIKE A DUDE AND THEY STILL
DON'T WANT TO RESPECT FKN BOUNDARIES?

THAT'S WHY I DRESS LIKE A DUDE!
TO TURN DUDES OFF!

BUT EVEN THAT DOESN'T ALWAYS WORK!

TELLING THEM:
ONLY AS FRIENDS...

DOESN'T SEEM TO WORK!

TELLING THEM I AM BUSY
ON A WEEKEND THEY DID NOT MAKE PLANS WITH ME
DOESN'T SEEM TO WORK.

BECAUSE ALL THEY CARE ABOUT 
IS WHAT THEY WANT, IT SEEMS. 

WHAT WORKS? TELL ME!
WHAT GETS GUYS TO BACK TF OFF
WHEN IT COMES TO CHICKS?

CHICKS TELLING THEM TO STOP DOING SOMETHING
THEY SHOULDN'T BE DOING.... 
KNOWING THEY ARE TESTING BOUNDARIES
VERY FKN EARLY... NOT COOL. 

THEN GETTING MAD WHEN YOU HAVE BOUNDARIES...
NOT FKN COOL.

SHOULD I LIE AND TELL HIM I HAVE A D*CK?

BEING FKN HONEST WITH HIM....
DOESN'T SEEM TO BE WORKING.

IF IT ONLY SEEMS TO MATTER WHAT HE WANTS
I'M NOT OKAY WITH THAT.

HE WANTS TO "PLAY WITH MY EARS."
WHY WOULD I WANT HIM TO?
HE IS NOT MY BOYFRIEND!

HE WANTS ACCESS TO ME
TO LET HIM DO WHAT HE WANTS.

I'M NOT OKAY WITH THAT.

AND WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT
HE GOT MAD RIGHT AWAY. 

AND THEN EXPECTED TO HAVE ACCESS
TO ME RIGHT AFTER THAT?

WITHOUT AN APOLOGY?
WITHOUT ACKNOWLEDGEMENT?

WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT IT?

AND THEN WANTED DETAILS ABOUT WHAT I WAS DOING?
BECAUSE I TOLD HIM I WASN'T AVAILABLE FOR HIM?

NOTHING ELSE AFTER I DIDN'T GIVE HIM DETAILS, EITHER.

"GOOD LUCK WITH THAT, TALK WITH YOU LATER"
NOTHING BUT A THUMBS UP.
PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE.

IF I FELT LIKE EXPLAINING WHAT I WAS DOING, I WOULD HAVE.
MAYBE I WOULD RATHER BE DOING IT
THAN EXPLAINING IT.

MAYBE HE ALREADY TOLD ME THAT STUFF
DOESN'T INTEREST HIM. 

IF IT DID, MAYBE I WOULD HAVE TOLD HIM MORE, 
BUT IT DOESN'T, AND I'D RATHER JUST BE DOING IT.

TRYING TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH ANYONE
WHO DOESN'T UNDERSTAND IT.....

IS WHAT?

PRODUCTIVE?

AND MOST PEOPLE DON'T LIKE IT
BECAUSE THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND IT.

THEY FEEL STUPID AROUND THINGS
THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND
AND DON'T LIKE FEELING STUPID.

BUT IF YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND CERTAIN THINGS
AND YOU CAN'T SEE CERTAIN THINGS
AND YOU DON'T KNOW CERTAIN THINGS, 

YOU CAN THINK YOU ARE EDUCATED, 
BUT YOU REALLY REQUIRE WISDOM. 

BEING EDUCATED IS NOT THE SAME THING
AS BEING WISE.