Why It Bugged Me

If a dude wouldn't ask their MALE FRIENDS....
ABOUT THEIR S*X LIVES....

WHY ASK ME ABOUT MINE?

I ASKED MY MALE FRIENDS IF THEY ASK
THEIR MALE FRIENDS ABOUT
THEIR S*X LIVES....

TO TEST THAT "THEORY."

2 OF THEM WHO ANSWERED.... SAID NO.

1) PERSONAL MATTERS SHOULD BE PRIVATE
2) NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS.

FROM DUDES.... ABOUT THEIR MALE FRIENDS' 
S*X LIVES.

THEY WOULDN'T ASK THEM!

THAT'S WHY I ASKED!

Because I was pretty sure.... THEY WOULDN'T.

Just like.... Males....
PROBABLY WOULDN'T CALL ANOTHER DUDE
HUN, OR BABE, OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT....

ESPECIALLY AT WORK.

RIGHT?

THEY WOULD CALL THAT DUDE BY THEIR NAME!!!!!!!
BY.... THEIR.... NAME!

CORRECT????

SO.... AS A FEMALE.....
WOULDN'T I WANT TO BE CALLED BY MY NAME, TOO?

THAT'S WHY WE HAVE NAMES!
TO BE CALLED BY OUR NAMES!

RIGHT?

AREN'T THERE OTHER THINGS TO TALK ABOUT?
OTHER THAN S*X?

SO WHY DOES THAT HAVE TO COME UP?
AT ALL?

I have male friends who NEVER asked me about my s*x life.
My s*x life likely doesn't matter to them!

WHY WOULD THAT MATTER TO THEM?

Should it come up just because I'm a FEMALE? NO?
Wouldn't if I was a dude, right?

BUT IT WAS "JUST" "CURIOSITY."

NO. IT WASN'T JUST THAT.

If something isn't their business....
WHY BE CURIOUS ABOUT IT?

Should MY "s*x life"
BE ANYONE'S BUSINESS? NO?

SO THEN????? WHY ASK ME?

Second time he was "just curious."

PRIOR TO THAT.... HIS QUESTIONS
FOR ME.... WEREN'T ABOUT THAT.

"I was JUST CURIOUS."
WHY, THOUGH? HMMM?

SHOULD IT MATTER? TO ANYONE?
WHY SHOULD IT?

If anything..... It'd be for my PARTNER.
TO KNOW ABOUT.

NOT MY FRIENDS.

IF THEY WANT TO KNOW....
THERE'S A REASON FOR THAT.

THEY COULD HAVE..... JUST.....
NOT ASKED ME.

RIGHT?

ASKED ME ALMOST ANYTHING ELSE?
ABOUT MY ACTUAL INTERESTS?

ASKED ME THINGS TO GET TO KNOW ME AS A PERSON?
WITHOUT THAT CRAP?

IF TWO PEOPLE WANTED TO TALK ABOUT S*X....
THEY CAN.....

BUT.... WHY SHOULD THAT COME UP?

ESPECIALLY.... WHEN YOU'RE TRYING TO....
JUST GET TO KNOW SOMEONE?
AS A PERSON?

DO WE HAVE TO ASK PEOPLE PERSONAL QUESTIONS?

THAT THEY WOULDN'T ASK THEIR OWN GENDER?
BECAUSE THAT DOESN'T INTEREST THEM?

BUT BECAUSE I'M A FEMALE.... 
MY S*X LIFE IS "INTERESTING"?

Bugs me. It does. 

BEING SINGLE DOES NOT MEAN THAT I WANT TO
"HOOK UP."

"Why do you think like that?"
WHY DO YOU WANT ME TO THINK LIKE YOU?

Should I have to explain why..... 
WHY that I shouldn't have to explain why?

BUT IF I DON'T EXPLAIN WHY.....
WOULD THEY "UNDERSTAND"?

BUT IF THEY DON'T WANT TO "UNDERSTAND"
WOULD THEY "UNDERSTAND"?

Knitting and s*x don't COMPARE!

ARE THEY BOTH INTERESTS?
ARE THEY BOTH ACTIVITIES?

THEN????? THEY DO COMPARE!

BUT..... DO GUYS.... PUT THEMSELVES.....
IN WOMEN'S "SHOES"?

TO "UNDERSTAND" WHAT IT'S LIKE?
CONSTANTLY?????

WHAT WOULD THAT BE LIKE FOR THEM?
"JUST OUT OF CURIOSITY."

HE HAS DAUGHTERS!
WHAT IF A MAN ASKED HIS DAUGHTERS
ABOUT THEIR S*X LIVES?

"JUST OUT OF CURIOSITY"?
WOULD IT MAKE SENSE, THEN?

You know what????

HOW DUDES TALK ABOUT THEIR EXES....
IS HOW THEY'D TALK ABOUT ME, TOO.

AND BEFORE YOU SAY HOW I TALK ABOUT DUDES...
I DEALT WITH.... 

I BRING UP SOME THINGS FOR A REASON.
TO THINK ABOUT IT.

BECAUSE THOSE DUDES....
WHO ARE ABOUT THAT BS.....
DIDN'T THINK ABOUT IT.

THAT IS ALL.

AND ALL DUDES....
COULD JUST....
THINK ABOUT IT.

JUST THAT.

ABOUT THAT "STRATEGY."
SOME CHICKS SEE THROUGH IT.
IT'S GROSS.

Have I asked questions out of actual curiosity? Yeah?

I met someone who told me.... As a fact about himself
that he is in the p*rn industry. 

AS A FACT ABOUT HIMSELF. 

1) I DGAF ABOUT THAT
2) HIS BUSINESS
3) WHY WOULD I JUDGE HIM BASED ON THAT?

He told me that he does get judged for it.
Of course, I'd never put his business out there.

I'm bringing it up....
BECAUSE I HAD A LEGIT QUESTION FOR HIM.

MY QUESTION WAS: WHY THAT INDUSTRY?
THAT WAS ALL.

NOT THAT IT WAS ANY OF MY BUSINESS.

AS AN INDUSTRY.... WHY?
THAT WAS ALL. 

OTHER THAN THAT.... I DGAF. 

But my question was legit curiosity. 
It wasn't to judge him about his answer or reasons.
OR ANY OF THAT. 

IT SHOULDN'T ACTUALLY MATTER. AT ALL.

I didn't get the vibe that he was telling me
as part of a strategy to gauge my "interest."

It was just.... A fact... About himself. 

Should I gaf about that? 
Should it matter?

It doesn't matter to me....

Sure, "thanks for trusting me enough to tell me that..."
BUT.... THAT DOESN'T "MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE."

IF THAT MAKES SENSE.

Like nothing about my "sex life"
HAS MUCH TO DO WITH "WHO I AM."

SO????? SHOULD HIS?
NO?

I only brought it up as an example....
OF WHY IT SHOULDN'T MATTER!!!!!!!!!!!! 

TO THINK ABOUT THAT.

THAT IS HIS LIFE, HIS CHOICE.
WHY THAT CHOICE? HE TOLD ME WHY.
BUT IT ALSO SHOULDN'T MATTER, EITHER.

OTHER THAN THAT ONE QUESTION....
DID I ASK HIM ANYTHING ELSE?

Or???? Did I just treat it as A FACT..... ABOUT HIM?

BECAUSE.... IT... JUST.... IS.

HE TRUSTED ME WITH THAT FACT.
WITH HIS PRIVACY.

WHICH I'LL KEEP AND RESPECT. 
NONE OF ANYONE'S BUSINESS.

IF HE WANTS TO TELL ANYONE, 
THAT IS HIS CHOICE.

HOW THEY RECEIVE THAT FACT...
IS THEIR CHOICE.

MINE WAS... TO RECEIVE IT....
AS A FACT.

SIMPLE. EASY. 
NOT HARD.

Just like how people could receive facts about ME
AS FACTS ONLY.

BUT DO THEY?
THEY COULD, THOUGH!

Even if I had a BOYFRIEND OR A HUSBAND....
WOULD WE HAVE TO TALK ABOUT S*X
CONSTANTLY?

WOULD WE HAVE TO BOINK 24/7?
OR COULD WE JUST CHILL?

Could we..... Just talk.... About other stuff?

But.... Why would I talk to my FRIENDS 
ABOUT THINGS I'D TALK TO A PARTNER ABOUT?

My friend told me that fact about himself
more or less to give me an "out"
LIKE IF IT "BOTHERED" ME....
WE DIDN'T HAVE TO BE FRIENDS.

THAT'S ALL.
THAT'S FAIR.... I GET THAT.

BUT.... WHY SHOULD THAT "BOTHER" ME?

DOES THAT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME????!!! NO?
SO??? WHY SHOULD IT "BOTHER" ME?

Some things that don't have anything to do with me 
do bother me, but for some reasons... 

LIKE ON A MORALITY BASIS.

Things that should bother EVERYONE.
BECAUSE RIGHT IS RIGHT
AND WRONG IS WRONG. 

LIKE AB*SE.
ETC.

H@RM.

STUFF LIKE THIS.

SERIOUS SH*T SHOULD MATTER!
ALWAYS.

SHOULD MATTER MORE!!!!
THAN SH*T THAT SHOULDN'T!!!!

MAKES SENSE????
As examples???

Because.... WHY SHOULD S*XUALITY.......
MATTER MORE.....
THAN CERTAIN OTHER STUFF????

IS A PERSON.... "ONLY THEIR S*XUALITY"?
NO?

OR????? ARE THEY.... A PERSON?

PRETTY SURE THEY ARE A PERSON!!!!!!!

SO THEN?????
CAN YOU GET TO KNOW THEM.....
AS A PERSON??????

COULD YOU? YEAH?
IF YOU WANTED TO?
AND IF THEY WANTED TO LET YOU?
YEAH?

PRETTY SURE YOU COULD! 
IF THEY WANT TO LET YOU.

AND IF THEY LET YOU....
THAT IS A CHANCE TO.

JUST THAT.

What I've been seeing and FINDING OUT....
IS WHAT PEOPLE DO WITH THAT CHANCE.

WHEN IT COMES TO ME.

If people throw that chance away....
THEY DO THAT. OKAY.

THEY HAD IT....
TO CHOOSE WHAT TO DO WITH IT.

SO???? OKAY. 

JUST THAT.

AM I SUPPOSED TO BE "UNSTABLE" ABOUT IT?

OR???? JUST.... OKAY.

AS A FACT. 

IT'S NOT ABOUT THEM THROWING IT AWAY... 
IT'S HOW THEY CHOSE TO DO IT.

SOMETIMES ABOUT WHY.... SOMETIMES....
BUT.... 

MOSTLY HOW.

1) THEY DIDN'T HAVE TO
2) IT'S A CHOICE
3) THEY DIDN'T HAVE TO DO ME DIRTY ABOUT IT

But...... I'M NOT ON "STANDBY"
FOR THEM TO "DECIDE"
EITHER WAY. 

IF THEY WANT TO, FOR THE RIGHT REASONS...
OKAY.

FOR THE WRONG REASONS?
IN THE WRONG WAYS?
FK NO!!!!!!!!!! 

WOULD THEY WANT ME TO GET TO KNOW THEM?
FOR THE WRONG REASONS? NO?

IN THE WRONG WAYS? NO?

WHY WOULD I?

Pretty much.... That's the point. 
Why it bugs me.

Makes sense?