Been having a conversation tonight about communication.
Why some men avoid communication in relationships and in general.
And why women find this extremely frustrating.
Some good points were made. It was a good conversation.
I really value open communication.
Without it, a lot can get misintrepreted.
I'd rather be clear on things than misinterpret things.
The ability to talk openly and honestly about anything
is what makes relationships work.
When one person refuses to talk, the other doesn't know why
and is left to guess which can't turn out well.
Men and women think very differently
Which is why, as a woman, I want to know how men think
or particular men I want to communicate with are thinking.
I've been in relationships where the communication was very bad.
Which ended up ruining the relationship.
Good communication can only serve to make it stronger.
"Fights" result from bad communication.
Also from misinterpretations.
And lack of communication skills.
Which one of those is listening. Objectively, not subjectively.
There's a book I have that I intend to read soon
called: "You Just Don't Understand."
It's about communication between men and women.
I have to admit, the points I was trying to make
weren't always getting across the way I wanted them to.
Guys want to avoid conflict, which is their main reason
for avoiding talking about certain things,
but by avoiding conflict they assume they are going to have
actually creates tension which results in conflict.
I see things very differently than I used to.
Than a lot of people do.
But I kind of find it annoying that people assume things about me
like how I'm going to take something
without finding out.
I can accept a lot more than I was able to.
I used to be pretty fragile and easily hurt.
Because I took things personally and looked at them subjectively.
Thing is that not all women think the same and not all men do.
But getting insight from a guy as to how some guys think
is better than getting none and wondering all the time.
Sometimes I really wonder what the 'big plan' is for me.
I know things happen for reasons, but I wonder what they are.
Like how things are not as they seemed or how we thought they were
and there are reasons for that, too.
There is a point to things, even though we don't know what it is.
It could be something (and often is) other than what we thought.
There have been some things on my mind and I can't write about them.
Anyway, I'll continue this post tomorrow.
Some things have been said that make a lot of sense.
Whereas some things have been said that don't.
And I'm kind of frustrated and flustered at the moment.
Also very tired. I was kind of hoping for a certain outcome, I guess.
But this is the 'allowing' thing that I'm supposed to be working on.
"Look for something positive each day,
even if some days you have to look a little harder."
Maybe one day it will make sense. It just doesn't right now.
Why some men avoid communication in relationships and in general.
And why women find this extremely frustrating.
Some good points were made. It was a good conversation.
I really value open communication.
Without it, a lot can get misintrepreted.
I'd rather be clear on things than misinterpret things.
The ability to talk openly and honestly about anything
is what makes relationships work.
When one person refuses to talk, the other doesn't know why
and is left to guess which can't turn out well.
Men and women think very differently
Which is why, as a woman, I want to know how men think
or particular men I want to communicate with are thinking.
I've been in relationships where the communication was very bad.
Which ended up ruining the relationship.
Good communication can only serve to make it stronger.
"Fights" result from bad communication.
Also from misinterpretations.
And lack of communication skills.
Which one of those is listening. Objectively, not subjectively.
There's a book I have that I intend to read soon
called: "You Just Don't Understand."
It's about communication between men and women.
I have to admit, the points I was trying to make
weren't always getting across the way I wanted them to.
Guys want to avoid conflict, which is their main reason
for avoiding talking about certain things,
but by avoiding conflict they assume they are going to have
actually creates tension which results in conflict.
I see things very differently than I used to.
Than a lot of people do.
But I kind of find it annoying that people assume things about me
like how I'm going to take something
without finding out.
I can accept a lot more than I was able to.
I used to be pretty fragile and easily hurt.
Because I took things personally and looked at them subjectively.
Thing is that not all women think the same and not all men do.
But getting insight from a guy as to how some guys think
is better than getting none and wondering all the time.
Sometimes I really wonder what the 'big plan' is for me.
I know things happen for reasons, but I wonder what they are.
Like how things are not as they seemed or how we thought they were
and there are reasons for that, too.
There is a point to things, even though we don't know what it is.
It could be something (and often is) other than what we thought.
There have been some things on my mind and I can't write about them.
Anyway, I'll continue this post tomorrow.
Some things have been said that make a lot of sense.
Whereas some things have been said that don't.
And I'm kind of frustrated and flustered at the moment.
Also very tired. I was kind of hoping for a certain outcome, I guess.
But this is the 'allowing' thing that I'm supposed to be working on.
"Look for something positive each day,
even if some days you have to look a little harder."
Maybe one day it will make sense. It just doesn't right now.
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