Since I made the decision, I'm going to stick to it. I now know that getting lost in all the negativity around me is way too easy to do, and the more I get tangled in it, the more seems to come my way. I attract it in, the more I let it affect me. I was in a chat room over on WIRECLUB and it was coincidentally right after I was feeling so hopeful when I finished the 'gift of hope' post.
I was talking in the chat room about how I'm making some progress in the optimistic department. Someone in there suggested a few things to me. I asked him how he knew this stuff, he suggests to me that I watch ABRAHAM HICKS on youtube. NOWEMBRACELIFE
After a trying few days here in the life of Abby. Problems with family and a former boyfriend... I just want to get this negativity out of my mind and start feeling better. It feels good to feel better. It really does. Yet it is a struggle for me not to just get to that 'state of mind', but to stay there. I wish I could be there all the time and never have to come back to the 'low place' ever again.
It feels like I'm stuck the negativity that creeps into my life from other people. I would rather fill my life with positivity and knowledge. With knowledge I can find new ways of creating a positive state of mind, ways that it'll be easier and faster to get there so that I can stay there as often as I like. I'm the one who is in charge of what I fill my mind with. There's a strong connection with the heart and the mind. If you really watch those life coaching videos, you'll see that they do make sense. The hardest job is to apply it when you have no idea what you're doing!
Picture a person who is starting a job with no prior training to do the tasks that are required for the successful completion of that job.
Ms/Mr So'n'So wants to wake up early to be on time for this new job...
What's that? Oh, they don't have an alarm clock and they can't possibly get one at this time.
Ms/Mr So'n'So wants to wake up early AND eat some breakfast before leaving for this new job...
What's that? Oh, there's no eggs, milk, or bread in the house today.
Ms/Mr So'n'So wants to get on the bus to go to this new job.
Oh, they don't know where the bus stop is.
and then when Ms/Mr So'n'So get's to work (let's say at an office)
Ms/Mr So'n'So:
Tries to use the photocopier to make coffee
Tries to use the coffeemaker to make a phone call
Tries to use the computer as a hole puncher
Tries to use the phone as a stapler
Keep in mind that all these nouns are metaphors for life skills. Coping mechanisms. Better ways of handling thoughts and emotions. This is how frustrating it is when someone like Ms/Mr So'n'So doesn't realize that you have to be prepared when you go out there to 'this new job'. In advance, if at all possible, instead of scrambling around at the last minute in a wild frenzy of terror.
One day Ms/Mr So'n'So will find someone to teach them that:
Photocopiers are to make photocopies
Coffeemakers are for making coffee
Phones are for making phone calls
Computers are for computing
Hole punchers are for punching holes
Staplers are for stapling
But until Ms/Mr So'n'So finds someone to teach them those things, Ms/Mr So'n'So will keep making the same mistakes they were all along.
When other people drag me into their problems I have to say: This is not my fault (because I often get blamed for other people's problems) This can only affect me if I let it (It's easy to let it affect you when you're being blamed for the problem). Since I won't let it affect me, what can I get out of this? (Getting something out of it means learning something from it).
All these thoughts make much more sense when I try to explain them in words like this!
I was talking in the chat room about how I'm making some progress in the optimistic department. Someone in there suggested a few things to me. I asked him how he knew this stuff, he suggests to me that I watch ABRAHAM HICKS on youtube. NOWEMBRACELIFE
After a trying few days here in the life of Abby. Problems with family and a former boyfriend... I just want to get this negativity out of my mind and start feeling better. It feels good to feel better. It really does. Yet it is a struggle for me not to just get to that 'state of mind', but to stay there. I wish I could be there all the time and never have to come back to the 'low place' ever again.
It feels like I'm stuck the negativity that creeps into my life from other people. I would rather fill my life with positivity and knowledge. With knowledge I can find new ways of creating a positive state of mind, ways that it'll be easier and faster to get there so that I can stay there as often as I like. I'm the one who is in charge of what I fill my mind with. There's a strong connection with the heart and the mind. If you really watch those life coaching videos, you'll see that they do make sense. The hardest job is to apply it when you have no idea what you're doing!
Picture a person who is starting a job with no prior training to do the tasks that are required for the successful completion of that job.
Ms/Mr So'n'So wants to wake up early to be on time for this new job...
What's that? Oh, they don't have an alarm clock and they can't possibly get one at this time.
Ms/Mr So'n'So wants to wake up early AND eat some breakfast before leaving for this new job...
What's that? Oh, there's no eggs, milk, or bread in the house today.
Ms/Mr So'n'So wants to get on the bus to go to this new job.
Oh, they don't know where the bus stop is.
and then when Ms/Mr So'n'So get's to work (let's say at an office)
Ms/Mr So'n'So:
Tries to use the photocopier to make coffee
Tries to use the coffeemaker to make a phone call
Tries to use the computer as a hole puncher
Tries to use the phone as a stapler
Keep in mind that all these nouns are metaphors for life skills. Coping mechanisms. Better ways of handling thoughts and emotions. This is how frustrating it is when someone like Ms/Mr So'n'So doesn't realize that you have to be prepared when you go out there to 'this new job'. In advance, if at all possible, instead of scrambling around at the last minute in a wild frenzy of terror.
One day Ms/Mr So'n'So will find someone to teach them that:
Photocopiers are to make photocopies
Coffeemakers are for making coffee
Phones are for making phone calls
Computers are for computing
Hole punchers are for punching holes
Staplers are for stapling
But until Ms/Mr So'n'So finds someone to teach them those things, Ms/Mr So'n'So will keep making the same mistakes they were all along.
When other people drag me into their problems I have to say: This is not my fault (because I often get blamed for other people's problems) This can only affect me if I let it (It's easy to let it affect you when you're being blamed for the problem). Since I won't let it affect me, what can I get out of this? (Getting something out of it means learning something from it).
All these thoughts make much more sense when I try to explain them in words like this!
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