Many years ago, I realized that things in my life needed to change. Because I was not happy with myself and the way I was living. The only problem was that the desire to change was there, but I lacked the knowledge to do anything about it with. I was stuck at the "I want to change, but I don't know how." In lots of ways, I still am, but I think that it's fear holding me back more than anything. Fear of being uncomfortable with the new changes and leaving the comfort of who I've been for the longest time, even though there are many times and many reasons I don't like who I've always been. I'm not happy being the way I am. I do want to change and I know I'll only be happy after making these changes successfully. I know there is a high rate of failure. It is to be expected not to be successful %100 of the time. I think the more times I fail, the higher chances I'll have to eventually succeed the more I keep trying.
So I've found a lot of videos on youtube and trying my best to let the info sink in. It's great to acquire knowledge, but it's even better to put it into practice. It's great to have skills, but better to use them.
So I have been trying to develop my skills, mostly mentally first. I want to develop a program for myself with ways to mentally teach myself skills I need to have. I have heard this saying a few times, "Change isn't about fighting the old, it's about building the new." So that's what I want to do. I'm acquiring knowledge. I'm researching things. I'm taking notes. I'm book marking videos or sharing them on here. I'm reading a lot more. I'm trying to focus on some form of self improvement every day. It's about taking small steps. Even if they are small, at least they are steps forward.
I am listening to an audio book called: "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People."
Anyway, there are some notes I will make on here about it.
1) A habit is a combination of three things: knowledge, skills, and desire.
- knowledge is the theoretical side ( what to do and why to do it )
- skill is the practical side ( how to do it )
- desire is the motivation side ( the want to do it )
2) The principles for character ethic are:
- Integrity
- Fidelity
- Courage
- Compassion
- Contribution
- Responsibility
- Justice
- Service
3) The three levels on the maturity continuum are:
- Dependance -Attitude of needing others to get what you want.
- Independance -Attitude of being free of external influence. Getting what you want by your own efforts.
- Inter-dependance -Attitude that working together as a team can achieve greater effect.
(Sorry if my blog posts consist of note taking and stuff, but I gotta learn stuff). But maybe this stuff can be helpful to others. It's giving me a chance for it to sort of sink in.
The first three habits are: Be proactive, Begin with the end in mind, put first things first.
These are all self-control habits. Private Victory.
The next three habits are: Co-operation, Communication, Creative co-operation based on communication,
These are habits of being effective with others. Public Victory.
The last habit is Renewal. Renewal of all the dimensions of our lives. Because it further develops our habits.
The habit of continuous improvement because it creates an upward spiral of growth and development.
The next part is about how at the core of each habit is a principle. I've been thinking about principles a lot lately. The last few days. I was thinking of the Tao principles from the Tao tree when I went there. Also about the ones I found online related to dating. Which I'm not even ready to get into. At least I know now that nothing will work out unless I'm ready and the person I'm with is also ready. It took me a long time to figure that out. Probably 10-20 years!!! This has a lot to do with any relationship in my life. Even friendships. There is a lot lacking in my life, but it has more to do with myself. Anything and everything I ever wanted, hoped for, for myself is all within me. But it's buried in there so deep and blocked by so many obstructions. It's like I need instructions to get past my obstructions. It's up to ME to LEARN HOW to APPLY these principles to MY daily life. That is my purpose at the moment. It's NOT to try to be something I'm NOT for someone who does NOT appreciate the things that I AM.
So I've found a lot of videos on youtube and trying my best to let the info sink in. It's great to acquire knowledge, but it's even better to put it into practice. It's great to have skills, but better to use them.
So I have been trying to develop my skills, mostly mentally first. I want to develop a program for myself with ways to mentally teach myself skills I need to have. I have heard this saying a few times, "Change isn't about fighting the old, it's about building the new." So that's what I want to do. I'm acquiring knowledge. I'm researching things. I'm taking notes. I'm book marking videos or sharing them on here. I'm reading a lot more. I'm trying to focus on some form of self improvement every day. It's about taking small steps. Even if they are small, at least they are steps forward.
I am listening to an audio book called: "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People."
Anyway, there are some notes I will make on here about it.
1) A habit is a combination of three things: knowledge, skills, and desire.
- knowledge is the theoretical side ( what to do and why to do it )
- skill is the practical side ( how to do it )
- desire is the motivation side ( the want to do it )
2) The principles for character ethic are:
- Integrity
- Fidelity
- Courage
- Compassion
- Contribution
- Responsibility
- Justice
- Service
3) The three levels on the maturity continuum are:
- Dependance -Attitude of needing others to get what you want.
- Independance -Attitude of being free of external influence. Getting what you want by your own efforts.
- Inter-dependance -Attitude that working together as a team can achieve greater effect.
(Sorry if my blog posts consist of note taking and stuff, but I gotta learn stuff). But maybe this stuff can be helpful to others. It's giving me a chance for it to sort of sink in.
The first three habits are: Be proactive, Begin with the end in mind, put first things first.
These are all self-control habits. Private Victory.
The next three habits are: Co-operation, Communication, Creative co-operation based on communication,
These are habits of being effective with others. Public Victory.
The last habit is Renewal. Renewal of all the dimensions of our lives. Because it further develops our habits.
The habit of continuous improvement because it creates an upward spiral of growth and development.
The next part is about how at the core of each habit is a principle. I've been thinking about principles a lot lately. The last few days. I was thinking of the Tao principles from the Tao tree when I went there. Also about the ones I found online related to dating. Which I'm not even ready to get into. At least I know now that nothing will work out unless I'm ready and the person I'm with is also ready. It took me a long time to figure that out. Probably 10-20 years!!! This has a lot to do with any relationship in my life. Even friendships. There is a lot lacking in my life, but it has more to do with myself. Anything and everything I ever wanted, hoped for, for myself is all within me. But it's buried in there so deep and blocked by so many obstructions. It's like I need instructions to get past my obstructions. It's up to ME to LEARN HOW to APPLY these principles to MY daily life. That is my purpose at the moment. It's NOT to try to be something I'm NOT for someone who does NOT appreciate the things that I AM.
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